How to teach your child to make wise decisions

Raising children who, when they are adults, will make the best decisions for their lives is the dream of any parent. In a world with endless possibilities, with many factors that distract the child from his goal, it becomes a difficult task for parents.

When the child is born, he is totally dependent on adults. In early childhood, parents decide what is good, what is safe. But exercises to make simple decisions start early. Choosing a toy from the store or kindergarten is part of the learning process.

Ask him “Red or blue blouse, what do you want?” A choice with a maximum of 2-3 options would be appropriate, to be as simple as possible. Choosing a single toy from an entire store is an overwhelming decision for a small child. Limiting diversity to two favorite toys can make the choice possible.

As children grow up, they can make choices about hobbies, sleep time, with whom to go to a movie, what course to enroll, etc. To guide the child in making a good decision involves discussion, analyzing the consequences of one choice or another. Training, encouraging good decisions for the child, and discussing the right decisions when making bad choices are part of the learning process.

“Children learn better by looking at how their parents behave than by listening to what they say,” says Barry Schwartz, a psychology professor.

If you are discussing with the child what car you want to buy for the family or what would be better to buy a grandparent’s day gift – discussing pros and cons, choice criteria (price, grandparent’s preferences and gift usefulness) – then you allow the child to see what the steps of a decision are, to have a roadmap for making a decision.

Play the game: “What if …?”, using the surrounding reality
You can give the child scenarios to solve which require choices and ways to solve problems. Ask him what he would choose if he is invited at two of his colleagues’ birthdays at the same time and on the same day. Or what would he do with the money if he won 100 euros at a contest? Thus, you will encourage him to use critical thinking and improve his decision-making skills.

Allow them to make mistakes. If it’s not a health or safety issue, you can allow the child to make less good decisions. These will help him assess the consequences of a good / less good decision. If he comes and complains that he lost all his money at school, next time he won’t take all the money with him.

Children and wise decisions